How to Stay Rooted in Your Worth When Life Feels Out of Control

Did you know that your birth influences your life path? I was born straddling worlds, with my mother fighting for her life after I was born. She lived, and throughout our lives together she showed me the importance of needing to be rooted and anchored in this wild world. 

As a Scorpio woman, my life has never followed a quiet, predictable path. I’ve lived through chaos, loss, deep love, and soul-rattling change more times than I can count. But if there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s this: transformation isn’t the enemy. Avoiding it is.

What used to throw me completely off course—breakups, health scares, money stress, mom guilt, loneliness—now feel like waves I know how to surf. Not because my life got easier, but because I got stronger roots. I started treating myself like someone worth staying close to, even when the winds pick up.

Let me tell you a quick story.

A few years ago, I was in a season of total upheaval. I had two little kids, severe stomach issues, insomnia, and a schedule that didn’t allow me to breathe, let alone heal. I was running on coffee, resentment, and perfectionism. One day, after yelling at my daughter over something small and then immediately bursting into tears, I sat on the floor of my kitchen and said to myself, This is not who I want to be. 

That was my turning point. I was determined not to continue cycles of shame, pain, and disconnection. 

I didn’t have a dramatic overnight shift. I started with tiny goals to eat breakfast, and walk for nature and sunshine for 15 minutes. It sounds so simple, but when you’ve been self-abandoning for your whole life, it’s actually really hard. We do it imperfectly and consistently until it gets easier and easier. 

✨Three things I now come back to every time life gets hard:

• 🧘‍♂️ Anchor in Your Body

  When your mind is racing and everything feels uncertain, your body is your anchor. For me, that means simple things: a protein-rich breakfast I actually enjoy. A hot shower with my favorite music on. Touching the earth—barefoot in the park, walking, even just putting my hand on a tree and taking three deep breaths. Movement gets me out of my head and back into the present.

  
  

• 💛 Speak to Yourself Like You’d Speak to Your Child

  I used to shame myself for not doing more, being more, fixing everything. Now I talk to myself like I would my daughter when she’s overwhelmed. I say, You’re doing the best you can, and that’s enough. Or I see you. I love you. Let’s just take one small step today. That kindness is a form of self-leadership.

  
  

• 🌱 Let Your Habits Hold You When You Can’t Hold Yourself

  I don’t chase perfect routines anymore, but I do lean into rhythms that support me. A morning shake. Lighting a candle while I clean up the kitchen. Writing three lines in my journal before bed. These rituals may seem small, but they remind me: I’m still here. I’m still choosing me. That’s powerful.

If you’re in a storm right now—emotionally, physically, financially—I want to remind you: you’re not broken. You’re becoming. And your worth isn’t dependent on how “together” you look. It’s already there, rooted deep within you.

Let your self-care be the soil. Let your love for yourself be the water. Keep growing.

With you in the deep,

Lindsey

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